today as every Fathers Day my social media is full of loving messages for lots of Fathers. Some are yet to be Dads, some are young parents, some are old and some not here any more. No matter, the love is there to see all over the page.
As a woman and a Mother I have always wondered what it must feel like to be a Dad. For my relationship with all four of my children started long before I met them in person. From the early stirrings of butterfly kicks to the uncomfortable wriggling of twins, I knew my children were there. I would talk to them, and loved lying in a warm bath and watching them wriggle. I was blessed. Dads just can’t do that.
When Dads meet their children for the first time it must be a massive leap for their emotions. If they are lucky to be there for the first seconds of life the bond of love must leap from the first cry straight into their hearts. The connection a Mother has is broken at birth, soon to be re established over the coming days, weeks and years. I do wonder how if feels to be a Dad.
When my darling granddaughter was born, my son, beaming and smiling just minutes after meeting his daughter was in a dreamlike state. Lack of sleep and emotions of love across his face. I told him I loved him and he replied, ‘today I know just how much you do love me Mum’ the memory makes me cry even now.
So, to all the Dads out there, and all the men who love our children, to all the men that made us the women we are and to all the blokes who support and love their family every day, today is your day.
There used to be a saying that went ‘behind every great man is a woman’ I think there is some truth in that. I also think that alongside many great women are the Dads, the husbands and the partners that believe in you, support you and love you.
Today I celebrate the marvellous men out there, just going about everyday, being annoying, getting things wrong and relying on us women. The men who get up every morning and go to work to earn money to support a family. The men who hold our hands and our hearts and the Dads who made us who we are today.